S2: E2 Nonviolent Communication With Micah Salaberrios

Episode Summary

After a few years of avoiding all the signs to learn about Nonviolent Communication, I gave in. I first listened to Nonviolent Communication: A Language for Life by Marshall Rosenberg. Then I listened to Micah’s book The Art of Nonviolent Communication: A Handbook for Turning Conflict Into Connection. I loved his book because he made all of the teachings super easy to digest and understand. The reason nonviolent communication is important is that it could help you with your spouse, your boss, your kids, and even with communicating with yourself. It deepens those relationships. It also keeps you out of trouble and usually prevents arguments from spiraling out of control. Since I’m a recovering hot-headed Cuban, I needed the book stat! Hence why I avoided it for so many years.

Guest Bio

Micah Salaberrios is a filmmaker, musician and NVC Teacher. He discovered NVC in 2015 and instantly became intensely absorbed in learning as much as possible about it due to needing it so much. It soon became apparent to him that he had a knack for sharing this knowledge and he wrote a short book on the topic and started his own podcast.

Email: artofnvc@gmail.com
Podcast: The Art of NVC
Website: artofnvc.com
IG: artofnvc
Course: ARTOFNVC.TEACHABLE.COM

Quotes

‘It’s a way of speaking that is a hundred percent authentic without any judgments or implying that someone else is bad or wrong in any way.’

“We’re going to have conflicts and we want to be able to just express ourselves authentically and then resolve these conflicts.”

“There's no way to measure an opinion.”

“We don't want to blame them for how we feel and that's another common thing.”

“How we feel is always our own responsibility.”

“Most, we don't want to admit that we're upset, or annoyed, or irritated or sad, or confused or concerned or suspicious, you know, but when you do and it's accurate and it's honest, it builds a connection.”

“I've noticed that a lot of people struggle with even knowing what they are feeling.”

“If you get angry and attack after they refuse your request, that was a demand, and demand is a threat.”

“It's really important to be able to trust that you're going to do what you say.”

“It's a real challenge because it takes high thinking and awareness when we're triggered and emotional.”